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Network Marketing: Tough Love & Motivation (Because You Deserve Success in Your Home Based Business)

April 14, 2020 / 0 Comments/ in News / by Rob Sperry

Being a Network Marketing professional isn’t easy, so I know it can be hard to hear (and might not even make sense right now) — but I feel it needs to be said.

Survivors aren’t successful in network marketing.

What do I mean by this?

Here’s an excerpt from my newest book, THE GAME OF CONQUERING, to help me explain…

Most events and webinars are filled with survivors. Let me give you some tough love. If you are a survivor in network marketing, you will not have success. (Ouch!)

I want to help you recruit more. I want to help you create more retention. I want to help you create more duplication. I can’t do that unless I can be very direct with you. I am by no means saying that being a survivor is bad. It is actually a very positive and necessary step forward. I am just being clear that it isn’t enough to just survive. There is more.

The GOAL is progress. Progress should always be celebrated. If you are a victim transitioning into a survivor, you should celebrate. If you are a survivor transitioning into a stronger survivor, that should be celebrating, as well. Becoming a survivor is the first step in your process to success—but it can’t be the end goal.

Some words that come to mind when I think about survivor mindset are endurance, resilience, and struggle.

Survivor mindset usually has an inner drive that keeps the person moving forward. They believe in family, faith, or something bigger than themselves. A person with a survivor mindset often cares more about those around them than themselves. But survivor mindsets struggle personally with feelings of worth and feeling weak. They may also feel unworthy of being a survivor of their circumstances. Someone with a survivor mindset will feel like they are barely hanging on.

Endurance feels like the norm for the survivor mindset. They always feel as if they need to be enduring and will constantly evaluate people or circumstances that may threaten their survival. This is a survival skill that humans have been programmed with since the beginning of time. It is what helps keep us alive in life’s biggest emergencies. But often, because of this programmed response, the survivor will find themselves in fight-or-flight mode during regular daily life activities. Survivors put too much focus on NOT QUITTING rather than winning. The distinction is critical.

I will often hear these words from a survivor: “Rob, I am willing to do whatever it takes! I am super committed to this. I will never miss an event. I am at all the trainings. I am reading about personal development.” This person is showing up and not quitting, but are they thriving? Are they winning?

A survivor is able to recognize their role in their experiences, which enables them to move beyond their circumstances. However, they doubt their own abilities to move forward any further, because they lack confidence in themselves. They compare themselves to others and struggle to keep up. They want people to see them as the “picture of perfection.” They struggle to be vulnerable because it will destroy their perfection and define them as a victim. They keep their past hidden. They have let go of the past, but they still struggle to move on. 

Survivors are often in leadership roles and have great problem-solving skills. They learn quickly how to adapt. They are also known for their positive attitudes. These are all great qualities to have, but they are also a weakness for the survivor mindset. Like I said before, the survivor mindset will feel they can never show weakness or talk about struggles. It’s as if they were hiding some terrible secret. They will hide their insecurities and weaknesses behind their strong traits. They have a hard time asking for help and will go to great lengths to make sure people continue to see them as a survivor.

Sadly, someone who stays in survivor mindset for too long may slip into victim mindset. The mental pressure and strain of being “strong” and being in fight or flight mode will take its toll.

“I have gone to all the events,” they will say. “I have read all the books. Why am I not successful?” They may feel there is no relief and will see themselves as a victim. They didn’t progress past the survivor mindset and shift into a conqueror’s mindset! They will always see their role as being a survivor and feel like there is no relief from the struggle.

My friend, Cindy, was in network marketing for twelve years and never made a ton of money. She came to every convention. She attended weekly trainings. She was very consistent with her personal development. She was told that if you just don’t quit, you will eventually succeed. But after twelve years into network marketing—that wasn’t the case.

She still hadn’t achieved any of her goals.

Cindy, like most network marketers, wasn’t effective with her time. She was just surviving. She was doing the least amount possible in the income producing activities. In her mind, she was working hard because she was always thinking about network marketing. But her actions didn’t reflect her goals. Her actions didn’t reflect her dreams—yet she was hoping for the business to take off.

She was what I call FAKE-WORKING. Working in this business is talking to new people about your business or products. Cindy was creating a checklist of 22 important things to do. Things like personal development, team training, and studying the compensation plan. All good things. But none of them mean anything if you aren’t doing the MAIN THING.

She was avoiding reaching out to new people because of FEAR. In this case, fear is an emotion about the future. Fear is about something that hasn’t happened yet. If we don’t learn to acknowledge and understand our fears and conquer them, we will always be SURVIVORS—at best. We will NEVER accomplish our goals, dreams, and aspirations. We will survive, but we won’t thrive.

Network Marketing: Tough Love & Motivation (Because You Deserve Success in Your Home Based Business)

April 14, 2020 / 0 Comments/ in News / by Rob Sperry

Being a Network Marketing professional isn’t easy, so I know it can be hard to hear (and might not even make sense right now) — but I feel it needs to be said.

Survivors aren’t successful in network marketing.

What do I mean by this?

Here’s an excerpt from my newest book, THE GAME OF CONQUERING, to help me explain…

Most events and webinars are filled with survivors. Let me give you some tough love. If you are a survivor in network marketing, you will not have success. (Ouch!)

I want to help you recruit more. I want to help you create more retention. I want to help you create more duplication. I can’t do that unless I can be very direct with you. I am by no means saying that being a survivor is bad. It is actually a very positive and necessary step forward. I am just being clear that it isn’t enough to just survive. There is more.

The GOAL is progress. Progress should always be celebrated. If you are a victim transitioning into a survivor, you should celebrate. If you are a survivor transitioning into a stronger survivor, that should be celebrating, as well. Becoming a survivor is the first step in your process to success—but it can’t be the end goal.

Some words that come to mind when I think about survivor mindset are endurance, resilience, and struggle.

Survivor mindset usually has an inner drive that keeps the person moving forward. They believe in family, faith, or something bigger than themselves. A person with a survivor mindset often cares more about those around them than themselves. But survivor mindsets struggle personally with feelings of worth and feeling weak. They may also feel unworthy of being a survivor of their circumstances. Someone with a survivor mindset will feel like they are barely hanging on.

Endurance feels like the norm for the survivor mindset. They always feel as if they need to be enduring and will constantly evaluate people or circumstances that may threaten their survival. This is a survival skill that humans have been programmed with since the beginning of time. It is what helps keep us alive in life’s biggest emergencies. But often, because of this programmed response, the survivor will find themselves in fight-or-flight mode during regular daily life activities. Survivors put too much focus on NOT QUITTING rather than winning. The distinction is critical.

I will often hear these words from a survivor: “Rob, I am willing to do whatever it takes! I am super committed to this. I will never miss an event. I am at all the trainings. I am reading about personal development.” This person is showing up and not quitting, but are they thriving? Are they winning?

A survivor is able to recognize their role in their experiences, which enables them to move beyond their circumstances. However, they doubt their own abilities to move forward any further, because they lack confidence in themselves. They compare themselves to others and struggle to keep up. They want people to see them as the “picture of perfection.” They struggle to be vulnerable because it will destroy their perfection and define them as a victim. They keep their past hidden. They have let go of the past, but they still struggle to move on. 

Survivors are often in leadership roles and have great problem-solving skills. They learn quickly how to adapt. They are also known for their positive attitudes. These are all great qualities to have, but they are also a weakness for the survivor mindset. Like I said before, the survivor mindset will feel they can never show weakness or talk about struggles. It’s as if they were hiding some terrible secret. They will hide their insecurities and weaknesses behind their strong traits. They have a hard time asking for help and will go to great lengths to make sure people continue to see them as a survivor.

Sadly, someone who stays in survivor mindset for too long may slip into victim mindset. The mental pressure and strain of being “strong” and being in fight or flight mode will take its toll.

“I have gone to all the events,” they will say. “I have read all the books. Why am I not successful?” They may feel there is no relief and will see themselves as a victim. They didn’t progress past the survivor mindset and shift into a conqueror’s mindset! They will always see their role as being a survivor and feel like there is no relief from the struggle.

My friend, Cindy, was in network marketing for twelve years and never made a ton of money. She came to every convention. She attended weekly trainings. She was very consistent with her personal development. She was told that if you just don’t quit, you will eventually succeed. But after twelve years into network marketing—that wasn’t the case.

She still hadn’t achieved any of her goals.

Cindy, like most network marketers, wasn’t effective with her time. She was just surviving. She was doing the least amount possible in the income producing activities. In her mind, she was working hard because she was always thinking about network marketing. But her actions didn’t reflect her goals. Her actions didn’t reflect her dreams—yet she was hoping for the business to take off.

She was what I call FAKE-WORKING. Working in this business is talking to new people about your business or products. Cindy was creating a checklist of 22 important things to do. Things like personal development, team training, and studying the compensation plan. All good things. But none of them mean anything if you aren’t doing the MAIN THING.

She was avoiding reaching out to new people because of FEAR. In this case, fear is an emotion about the future. Fear is about something that hasn’t happened yet. If we don’t learn to acknowledge and understand our fears and conquer them, we will always be SURVIVORS—at best. We will NEVER accomplish our goals, dreams, and aspirations. We will survive, but we won’t thrive.

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