Being a Network Marketing professional isn’t easy, so I know it can be hard to hear (and might not even make sense right now) — but I feel it needs to be said.
Survivors aren’t successful in network marketing.
What do I mean by this?
Here’s an excerpt from my newest book, THE GAME OF CONQUERING, to help me explain…
Most events and webinars are filled with survivors. Let me give you some tough love. If you are a survivor in network marketing, you will not have success. (Ouch!)
I want to help you recruit more. I want to help you create more retention. I want to help you create more duplication. I can’t do that unless I can be very direct with you. I am by no means saying that being a survivor is bad. It is actually a very positive and necessary step forward. I am just being clear that it isn’t enough to just survive. There is more.
The GOAL is progress. Progress should always be celebrated. If you are a victim transitioning into a survivor, you should celebrate. If you are a survivor transitioning into a stronger survivor, that should be celebrating, as well. Becoming a survivor is the first step in your process to success—but it can’t be the end goal.
Some words that come to mind when I think about survivor mindset are endurance, resilience, and struggle.
Survivor mindset usually has an inner drive that keeps the person moving forward. They believe in family, faith, or something bigger than themselves. A person with a survivor mindset often cares more about those around them than themselves. But survivor mindsets struggle personally with feelings of worth and feeling weak. They may also feel unworthy of being a survivor of their circumstances. Someone with a survivor mindset will feel like they are barely hanging on.
Endurance feels like the norm for the survivor mindset. They always feel as if they need to be enduring and will constantly evaluate people or circumstances that may threaten their survival. This is a survival skill that humans have been programmed with since the beginning of time. It is what helps keep us alive in life’s biggest emergencies. But often, because of this programmed response, the survivor will find themselves in fight-or-flight mode during regular daily life activities. Survivors put too much focus on NOT QUITTING rather than winning. The distinction is critical.
I will often hear these words from a survivor: “Rob, I am willing to do whatever it takes! I am super committed to this. I will never miss an event. I am at all the trainings. I am reading about personal development.” This person is showing up and not quitting, but are they thriving? Are they winning?
A survivor is able to recognize their role in their experiences, which enables them to move beyond their circumstances. However, they doubt their own abilities to move forward any further, because they lack confidence in themselves. They compare themselves to others and struggle to keep up. They want people to see them as the “picture of perfection.” They struggle to be vulnerable because it will destroy their perfection and define them as a victim. They keep their past hidden. They have let go of the past, but they still struggle to move on.